[mccauleydr]

This is my third wedding and my fiance's second. We don't need any presents so is it wrong to ask for honeymoon donations in lieu of gifts?

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

The jury is still out on the honeymoon registry, so if you're thinking about registering know that some guests might not be on board.

Remember that we should never ask for any particular gift, especially cash donations, and only let those who ask us directly know our preference. You can also let your close family know so if they are asked about your gift preference they can can inform the guest.

Registry information shouldn't be given in wedding invitations.

[Etiquette Guy]

Thanks for asking this good question. In a word, 'No'. Word of mouth as Donna suggests is the next best choice, in my view, but asking for cash is tacky. I hope this helps.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Don't forget to visit I Do, Take Two for ideas for planning the perfect second (or third) wedding.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree that many view this as tacky and not realistic. Money is tight for most these days and so it is best not to assume that others would want to pay our honeymoon.

This definitely is not my favorite registry item or gift. But, if done correctly, it could be viewed as somewhat safe and polite. As the Wedding Queen mentions, word of mouth is best. Also, you could mention that you are saving for your honeymoon on your wedding website (if you have one). It is also best if there is a bank or some "business" that collects the donations from your guests for you. Be aware that these places/accounts do take a hefty cut though. And, be aware that many of your guests may find all of this, no matter how politely presented, greedy. Be careful with your planning.

FYI: anyone who gave gifts to either of you for your first/second weddings are not obligated to give again.