[weddingbelle101]

Ever since I can remember my Dad has told me that he plans to pay for my wedding, now that I am in the beginning stages of planning, (newly engaged!) what is the best way to bring up the budget without sounding like I'm a money hog? My fiance also plans to contribute to it, how can I include that information as well?

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Ah, you're a sweet daughter!

You and the groom can go to your dad to discuss your wedding plans, letting him know what your intentions are regarding the finances. I'm sure he will pip in with what he would like to contribute, but if he doesn't you can probably ask him if he'd like to participate in any way. In fact, all of the parents could be involved in a conversation like that. See if they have any ideas or preferences.

I think if you just ask in the manner in which you portrayed yourself here, you'll be fine. I'll bet your dad already knows that you'd never be that bridezilla!

Hope this helps. Let us know what happens!

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. And, maybe it would be best to speak to him privately before discussing it with others. He may have wanted to contribute in the past, but times change, especially in our economic situation.

[Weddings Unlimited]

Discuss your Dad's financial contribution first without your fiance. Once, you've had the discussion, you will be in a better position to start building a budget. If your Dad's contribution is far below what you expected or need, then you should have a second talk and this time include your fiance. Be cautious, your dad could be offended that he isn't 100% paying for his daughter's wedding. Sometimes, having a wedding planner involved can be a good thing!

[weddingbelle101]

Great Ideas! Thank you Ladies!