[tmc]

We've been together for 24 years & are planning to finally get married next year on our 25th anniversary. Since my first wedding took less than 10 minutes in City Hall many years ago & he's never been married, we are both essentially newbies at this & are a bit confused on how we should go about it all. On the one hand, big is not necessary because we've been together so long, on the other hand, neither of us has had the "big to do" before. It's also our 25th anniversary of being together. I have personally always wanted to at least have the gown & beautiful photos done, he says whatever I want is good for him (a guy thing).
We have 6 grown children between us who think it's great that we're FINALLY getting married. Several of them say that since we ride motorcycles, maybe we should make it a "biker type" wedding or go with leather & lace.
I guess what I'm asking is; is there an etiquette for this situation? a certain way of doing the wedding?

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Well, congrats! Anything worth having is worth waiting for!

I'd say just make it age appropriate.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. And, here's one thing to consider. Many just may view you as already married just because you've been together for so long. So, keep this in mind while planning. If not inviting a lot of guests, it isn't an issue.

However, you might want to have everyone you know there. And, since you aren't really married, there really is no reason for you not to. Actually, I do agree that you should be able to have any type of wedding you wish. But, when inviting, we are then host. A host considers how her guests will perceive the planned event.

Talking in circles here. But, I did want to give you both sides of this issue so you can be prepared for how some may view your wedding. For me personally, I just have one word for you: Congrats!