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I am the bride and I am not sure how much say I have in the guest list for my bridal shower. My Mother-in-law wants to invite her best friends grown daughters who my Future husband doesn't even like. They are invited to the wedding, only because she threw a fit, but is it really necessary that they are invited to the bridal shower as well? The MOH is hosting the ordeal ( she is my f. husband's sister and very close to her mother).
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Guest list for Shower
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Hi,
Whenever I'm asked who should be invited to the shower of the Bride-to-be, I suggest the following. First, invite only those who are "directly acquainted" with the Bride-to-be. Second, I don't recommend inviting guests who are invited to the wedding because it is proper to do so but who are not particularly close to the Bride-to-be. Mainly, because doing so makes the Bride-to-be feel as though her shower isn't special and is just another party.
All that being said, remember that you are building a relationship with your inlaws, good or bad. One that will extend well beyond this shower. Weddings can sometimes make us much more sensitive, emotional and possessive than we would ordinarily be. While you may not like their approach to your shower, try not to let it make you upset. This is still about you and your wedding. At the end of the day, you will be saying "I DO' and on your way to a new beginning with the love of your life. [:)]
Best wishes,
Whenever I'm asked who should be invited to the shower of the Bride-to-be, I suggest the following. First, invite only those who are "directly acquainted" with the Bride-to-be. Second, I don't recommend inviting guests who are invited to the wedding because it is proper to do so but who are not particularly close to the Bride-to-be. Mainly, because doing so makes the Bride-to-be feel as though her shower isn't special and is just another party.
All that being said, remember that you are building a relationship with your inlaws, good or bad. One that will extend well beyond this shower. Weddings can sometimes make us much more sensitive, emotional and possessive than we would ordinarily be. While you may not like their approach to your shower, try not to let it make you upset. This is still about you and your wedding. At the end of the day, you will be saying "I DO' and on your way to a new beginning with the love of your life. [:)]
Best wishes,
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Agreed.
However, your future mother-in-law shouldn't be inviting anyone to your shower. This is not proper. It is the host who determines the guest list with a little help from the bride. Unfortunately in your case, your host will be influenced. It is best as Ms. Ellen states just to focus on the future.
Best wishes,
However, your future mother-in-law shouldn't be inviting anyone to your shower. This is not proper. It is the host who determines the guest list with a little help from the bride. Unfortunately in your case, your host will be influenced. It is best as Ms. Ellen states just to focus on the future.
Best wishes,
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