[NDMcG]

I have recently gotten engaged and have already started looking for the right dress. I recently found a shop in town that carries a designer that I really enjoy. I called and it just so happens they are having a grand opening at a new location in a couple weeks with some really good discounts being offered. Upon finding this out I set up an appointment to go check out some dresses. I of course immediately called my mom to tell her about it and asked that we make it a girls day. Well she just informed me that her coworker ( which is probably her best friend) is really excited about coming. I never meant for this to include other people but now it seems like the damage is already done. Am I being ridiculous wanting this to just be my mom and me? Is there a nice way I can ask my mom to uninvite her friend (although it seems her friend may have invited herself)? Please help!!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

I understand and I'm sure your mom will too. Hopefully the friend will understand. I'm sure she's just excited and cares for you. Maybe she has no daughters? Who knows the reasons but your mother will have to explain that this trip needs to be just the two of you alone since she allowed the conversation to continue. Only she can decide exactly how that should be done. Perhaps you can include the friend in the shopping for your mother's dress so she's not feeling left out? Maybe you can have a "dummy" shopping trip to another place and have the real trip with your mom on another day? I hate that you'd have to lie, but sometimes it's okay when you don't want to hurt feelings. Please let us know how this turns out for you.

[GownDesign]

I think it is perfectly normal for you to want your first trip to the bridal shop to be an intimate experience between your mother and yourself. The first time you try on gowns can be overwhelming and I always advise brides-to-be not to have too many opinions there. The truth is, it is your day and you should feel completely comfortable and in-your-element when going gown shopping.
I'm not sure how your mother's relationship is with this friend, but I do not think that it is inappropriate for her to just tell her the truth. She should explain that she discussed it with you and you would feel better if this could be a mother-daughter only experience. Who wouldn't appreciate that? You may decide that you need some other opinions after your first trip, but that should be your decision.
Good luck and keep us posted for sure!

[Panache by Erin]

I agree with Wedding Queen. Good luck!!

[Etiquette Now]

All great suggestions and all completely doable. However, I would suggest that since you didn't invite the friend, it isn't impolite to suggest to your mother that she be uninvited if that is your wish. So, if you decide that you want this to be a mother/daughter day, so be it.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Right, I wasn't suggesting that you, the bride, did anything inappropriate. Sorry if it came out that way. But it may be uncomfortable for your mother to have to un-invite her friend (who actually seems to have invited herself0. Seems like the friend overstepped a little but we weren't there. Your mom will know what she needs to do once you explain to her that you've dreamed of having this special moment with her alone.